To add I had plenty of friends in my youth, 20s and early 30s. Went downhill somewhere late 30s. People got married, had kids, moved away etc.
Is it a must to have children?
Probably just a lack of time to really invest much into it.
Children would certainly alter the time available equation for those who have them, and then it’s a case of people with kids generally won’t want to expose themselves to those without assuming it would be a problem and it often is.
Interestingly having kids doesn’t make everyone suddenly have something in common, while we’ve had amicable relationships with other parents at kids parties through school connections we haven’t had a single direct social gathering with the same people outside of that.
Quite honestly I just don’t have the energy for creating new bonds with people. It’s already a struggle just maintaining existing ones and they get less and less strong by the day.
Covid of course it a whole other story on top of all this adding more complications.
Don’t even get me started at the immediate divide caused by the whiff of antivax from people you always considered intelligent.
My 40th birthday is coming up next year and I always considered it as one epic party to invite everyone to, almost like a wedding. The closer I get to it the more and more I’m inclined to keep it quiet and a family affair with a select handful of friends. Or even leaving everyone out of it and spending the money on an overseas holiday.
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