Where do you live because I feel perfectly safe in Hermanus? As you said:
“But there are loads of places you can move to here in South Africa that would make you equally unhappy.”
I think it's safe to say that a vanishingly small portion of South Africans feel an adequate sense of personal safety.
With with Hermanus, 2 minutes on Google and I found a TripAdviser thread with locals saying that the cliff path is mostly safe with infrequent muggings, but don't do it after dark. And a crime statistics page saying that Hermanus has amongst the highest rates of burglaries in the country. There are still a bunch of murders, attempted murders, rapes and whatnot. A new public safety initiative kicked off a few months ago. And so on. Looks like it's doing better than most places, but by no means exempt from violent crime.
Whereas I could live somewhere like Canada or New Zealand and enjoy a totally negligible risk of violent death, day or night.
Anyone trying to make me the enemy will have to get through my friends and neighbours first. When it gets down to my family I'll stand and fight.
I'm happy where I am. Anyone with an opposing opinion is welcome to try and remove me.
It's just a discussion bud. No one is removing you. Although your friends and neighbours will be of minimal usefulness if violent criminals invade your home. Nor will you be any use to family members until long after the invasion or whatever is over.
Even your stand and fight attitude is typical for the sort of PTSD trauma South Africans seem to develop over their constant fear of violence.
I'm not sure about you guys, but my community WhatsApp group has Atlas on it and they send a weekly infographic on the nearby crime stats. That shit is horrifying. I live in probably the most upmarket area of PE, and the amount of stuff going down every week is insane. I shudder to think what less affluent and outright poor areas must go through.