Online Dating

biometrics

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It's that time again, looking to get out of the house and meet some people.

Tinder is really a horrible platform. I've used DatingBuzz in the past with some success. What other websites or apps do you recommend? Guess things like Meetup could be useful for like minded activities like hiking.
 

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Tinder is largely looks based. If you use the paid service, it improves your results significantly.

I've used Ok Cupid before and got one date from there but it never became serious.

Most guys on dating apps are pervs who are just looking for sex so you can get some dates just by being a decent guy.

I used Facebook when I was in college but that is a bit complicated as they can gossip (especially when there are mutual friends involved).
 

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I would say go to club and just bump into someone, apologise and buy them a drink but that only works in Cobra Kai. Also, clubs currently don't really exist although some places are picking up but the risks remain. I have never been able to use a dating app. I find it cringey so instead I hit the bars and clubs. My strategy has certainly paid off for me. MY current romantic interest is actually a friend who finds herself single at the same time as me. That means we already know a lot about one another. I think that nuance is missing from online dating where you meet someone as a potential romantic partner (at least this is the grounds for this first meeting) and you know fuckall about them. Besides the shit they spoke on the love app. And that's what I like about a bar - everyone is there to have a good time and you can explore a person without the opening gambit being a hook-up.
 

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It's that time again, looking to get out of the house and meet some people.

Tinder is really a horrible platform. I've used DatingBuzz in the past with some success. What other websites or apps do you recommend? Guess things like Meetup could be useful for like minded activities like hiking.
There was a time I used OkCupid as a way of finding online friends. I ended up playing Scrabble online for several years with one of the women I encountered on that website.
 

biometrics

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I would say go to club and just bump into someone, apologise and buy them a drink but that only works in Cobra Kai. Also, clubs currently don't really exist although some places are picking up but the risks remain. I have never been able to use a dating app. I find it cringey so instead I hit the bars and clubs. My strategy has certainly paid off for me. MY current romantic interest is actually a friend who finds herself single at the same time as me. That means we already know a lot about one another. I think that nuance is missing from online dating where you meet someone as a potential romantic partner (at least this is the grounds for this first meeting) and you know fuckall about them. Besides the shit they spoke on the love app. And that's what I like about a bar - everyone is there to have a good time and you can explore a person without the opening gambit being a hook-up.
The only club here closed down just before covid. There are bars but they are smoking areas and I fucking hate it now being an ex smoker. But point taken.
 

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Go jolling in cape Town central over the weekend....You're sure to meet someone
I had to fetch my son and his friends from a club on Friday night.. Cape town was heaving... There's obviously no covid there
 

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Company, lunch and sex. I'm not too fussy (as long as she is tall with long black hair).
If that's what you're looking for then Telegram would be the way to go.

Drop down menu and select 'People Nearby'
 

biometrics

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If that's what you're looking for then Telegram would be the way to go.

Drop down menu and select 'People Nearby'
That was toung in cheek, not into one night stands. Is that how they use Telegram?
 

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That was toung in cheek, not into one night stands. Is that how they use Telegram?
Most definitely - swingers, erotic clubs and random hookups. Even the local man advertises round these parts.

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newjourno

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Company, lunch and sex. I'm not too fussy (as long as she is tall with long black hair).

Your best bet is Tinder, there are some decent people there.

What helps is taking nice pictures, get a pro to take it or if you have a photographer in your circles. Generally, Iphone and DSLR pics work well.
 

biometrics

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What a shit experience, never again. Total superficial meat market. And they all want money, you can't do anything without payout. I'm out.

Think I'll stick to the real world, join a hiking group, hang out at the local markets, go out at night. The old traditional way.
 

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What a shit experience, never again. Total superficial meat market. And they all want money, you can't do anything without payout. I'm out.

Think I'll stick to the real world, join a hiking group, hang out at the local markets, go out at night. The old traditional way.

Pop in at a church and see if you can convert one or two.
 

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What a shit experience, never again. Total superficial meat market. And they all want money, you can't do anything without payout. I'm out.

Think I'll stick to the real world, join a hiking group, hang out at the local markets, go out at night. The old traditional way.
Alcohol....
 

Rudolph Hart

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What a shit experience, never again. Total superficial meat market. And they all want money, you can't do anything without payout. I'm out.

Think I'll stick to the real world, join a hiking group, hang out at the local markets, go out at night. The old traditional way.
I’ve done the whole online dating thing on and off over the years. If you’re quite fussy with the settings you can weed out a lot of the superficial crowd. I’ve met many people from online dating and am still friends with quite a number of them. There are plenty of normal people who just want to meet people, it’s not all one night stands and porn-stars.

As far as paying is concerned, the cost of a couple of months subscription to something like DatingBuzz is less than I’d spend on a decent dinner with someone, and if I’m meeting someone I’ll happily take them for a decent dinner to be able to relax and talk and get to know them, so while I don’t like paying for online stuff, I can live with it.
 
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