Best way to get over it is to get under a new one?

[Albus Belgarath]

Curious as to the various views regarding dealing with / getting over a shitty breakup.

Some people say to sow seeds until you feel better.

Others say to "take time" and "let things heal".

Yet others advise religion/drugs/meditation/jerking off at a gym/whatever.

Any suggestions or advice for what has worked for you?

 

[satanboy]

Just live your life.

 

[EADC]

Just live your life.

This.

Its up to you and what you want to do.

 

[emam]

Curious as to the various views regarding dealing with / getting over a shitty breakup.

Some people say to sow seeds until you feel better.

Others say to "take time" and "let things heal".

Yet others advise religion/drugs/meditation/jerking off at a gym/whatever.

Any suggestions or advice for what has worked for you?

I thought this had happened (FB profile pic)
And I'm so sorry to hear...


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[scudsucker]

On the bright side, you know she's willing to cheat with her ex on her current bf, and you are now the ex.... go for it!

 

[Tribs]

Curious as to the various views regarding dealing with / getting over a shitty breakup.

Some people say to sow seeds until you feel better.

Others say to "take time" and "let things heal".

Yet others advise religion/drugs/meditation/jerking off at a gym/whatever.

Any suggestions or advice for what has worked for you?

Anything you have now might be temporary - if you are ok with that - see who you meet and decide then. One doesn't have to decide - you can just go with how you feel in the moment. Just play it safe. Condoms and masks etc.

 

[Rudolph Hart]

Condoms and masks etc.

Not sure I’d be much good in the sack with a mask on.

 

[Tribs]

Not sure I’d be much good in the sack with a mask on.

Still better than dead

And do it outside. You need to be in the open with lots of fresh air

 

[Rudolph Hart]

You’ve thought this all out quite well haven’t you?

 

[Tribs]

You’ve thought this all out quite well haven’t you?

It's what my head does - yes.
They could also get Covid tests and isolate - and when they both get negative results - spend the weekend doing anything they please - in isolation of course

 

[Albus Belgarath]

My takeaway so far:

Live my life, pomp her now that she's my ex and meet new people and pomp them in public in the open while wearing a mask.

How is this any different to what I was doing before?

 

[Tribs]

My takeaway so far:

Live my life, pomp her now that she's my ex and meet new people and pomp them in public in the open while wearing a mask.

How is this any different to what I was doing before?

Oh you want different - you should come back to CS and be frustrated by terrible fps. And school hols are here - so all the cheaters and toxic players are back

 

[Albus Belgarath]

Oh you want different - you should come back to CS and be frustrated by terrible fps. And school hols are here - so all the cheaters and toxic players are back

Oh, I can barely contain the excitement. if I can find time between mowing the lawn and painting the walls with a stipple brush, I'll be there.

 

[Smuggy]

Hang out with your mates, have a braai and beers together, go for a ride on your bike if you have one... Just carry on with life and consider being single.. Way less hassle.

 

[Tribs]

Hang out with your mates, have a braai and beers together, go for a ride on your bike if you have one... Just carry on with life and consider being single.. Way less hassle.

I am with you on this

 

[spiderz]

Get to know yourself first ( the better version of yourself without her) before getting into something new ...

 

[Jings]

Prepare yourself in a way that if she asks to come back to you, that you will not make like a biscuit and crumble.
It's not like you really had a choice so she'll be wondering if it was really right decision to return to the ex, and making comparisons.

 

[Ghost64]

Stop saying Krickey lolzzz

 

[OCP]

Not sure I’d be much good in the sack with a mask on.

Don't they always insist?

 

[SlinkyMike]

Time is the only thing that will get you over it.

While you wait there are things you can do though.

Doesn't have to be gym but do take some exercise, your body has it's own happy drugs and you need them now.

Relationships often come with a degree of compromise, some of these compromises might actually be things you didn't even realise or things you have forgotten. Might be as simple as enjoying your favourite spicy food restaurant again or as complex as old friendships that have suffered due to the relationship, whatever it is you are free from those now. Reassess your space in light of the changes you have undergone.

Related to the previous point: you have more time to yourself now. Read, learn guitar, build some Lego... whatever you have wanted to do but couldn't due to the time that you were investing in the relationship, go for it.