Being deaf in a normal society

[Urist]

Bee and Pee - the B / P vocally and visually look the same to me cos I can't hear the difference.

The letters D and T have the same issue as well. Specially when spelling out names or places or whatever word that needs to be spelled out verbally. I"m never sure if it's D or T, P or B. Lol

Come to think of it... really difficult to explain the difference between D and T to someone
lol, don't worry... us afrikaans people make the same mistake with the english d and t all the time.

 

[biometrics]

Come to think of it... really difficult to explain the difference between D and T to someone
lol, don't worry... us afrikaans people make the same mistake with the english d and t all the time.

I'm curious, how does a stutterer want to be treated? Should one just stare and wait?

 

[Tribs]

I'm curious, how does a stutterer want to be treated? Should one just stare and wait?

Not staring. But I know many do not want help finishing their words

 

[Urist]

I'm curious, how does a stutterer want to be treated? Should one just stare and wait?

Guess so, just share the awkward moment with them while they pull funny faces trying to get a sound out, and carry on the conversation like normal.
The more you act like it's not a big deal the more it will not be a big deal.
Pretend that their funny word choices are normal, ie: I use synonyms to avoid words i know i'll struggle with. Will sometimes even phrase something like Yoda, or put another sound in front of a word, like "um" or a random vowel.
Laughing about it sometimes breaks the ice, puts the stammerer at ease and makes speech easier for them, but only do that with friends you know who won't be offended, people can be very sensitive about it.
If they want to say something and then say "never mind", never mind then.

The bane of my existence is a situation where you go in a circle and have to say something like in a meeting, the tension and buildup towards your turn is fucking horrible, and I WILL stutter worse than normal when it's my turn, from personal experience my suggestion would be to start with the stutterer if you absolutely have to do something like that, otherwise fuck clockwise introductions in meetings where people already know each-other.

Don't fucking mock them though, afrikaans teacher mocked me once in std 5. Fucking asshole.

 

[Urist]

Controlling the volume of my voice is like pulling teeth. It's impossible. I have to be reminded to lower my voice at times - my mother always asks me why I'm shouting when I didn't even know that I was talking loud. That's where an hearing aid helps. Sometime last year my cousins were telling me I didn't realise how noisy I was in the kitchen cos I don't even hear myself make that much noise - compared to hearing people who hear 5 times better than I do. They have to remind me from time to time when I forget.

Wonder if some sort of wearable tech, like a dB meter on a watch could give one some sort of sensory cue on the ambient loudness vs the loudness of your own voice and the pots and pans you're banging together.
Wonder how many times i'd be caught watching porn at full volume.

 

[BloodrayneZA]

Guess so, just share the awkward moment with them while they pull funny faces trying to get a sound out, and carry on the conversation like normal.
The more you act like it's not a big deal the more it will not be a big deal.
Pretend that their funny word choices are normal, ie: I use synonyms to avoid words i know i'll struggle with. Will sometimes even phrase something like Yoda, or put another sound in front of a word, like "um" or a random vowel.
Laughing about it sometimes breaks the ice, puts the stammerer at ease and makes speech easier for them, but only do that with friends you know who won't be offended, people can be very sensitive about it.
If they want to say something and then say "never mind", never mind then.

The bane of my existence is a situation where you go in a circle and have to say something like in a meeting, the tension and buildup towards your turn is fucking horrible, and I WILL stutter worse than normal when it's my turn, from personal experience my suggestion would be to start with the stutterer if you absolutely have to do something like that, otherwise fuck clockwise introductions in meetings where people already know each-other.

Don't fucking mock them though, afrikaans teacher mocked me once in std 5. Fucking asshole.

I'm somewhat a stutterer myself too at times. The key to treating one is to ask them to calm down and breath before trying again if they get flustered. I've learnt this technique helps when I say let me try again and take a deep breath in and out. Then when I feel calmer, I try again and it usually helps. It does not help to panic and continue to try again. If that doesn't work, then write it down. It's so much easier, that I can tell much for myself. There are certain words i struggle to pronounce and end up stuttering it out lol. I can't even do public speaking - i get stage fright but I have done a lot of acting in front of audiences in my younger years (drama student).

 

[BloodrayneZA]

Come to think of it... really difficult to explain the difference between D and T to someone
lol, don't worry... us afrikaans people make the same mistake with the english d and t all the time.

Yeah hence using words like D for Duck and T for Toilet makes things so much easier. Granted it's long winded but it helps to use an example word to spell out things.